My Dear White Friends,

I’m sure you’re aware of recent tragic events of Michael Brown and Eric Garner and so many others, and I hope you are angry and outraged.  Unfortunately police brutality having a racial slant is nothing new.

I know there are multiple layers in these incidents that need to be addressed to keep them from happening again, but I’m going to focus on the racial component and what you and I can realistically do about that now.  I’m asking for you to do three simple things.

  1. Acknowledge that 21 century America is still a racist place to live.  You might be tempted to say “But I’m not racist!”.  Good for you.  You can pat yourself on the back for being a fucking decent human being later, but I’m asking you for more than that right now.
  1. If you were born with light enough skin that allows you to check the white/caucasian box when you’re filling out forms  whether you accept it or not you have white privilege, and I know this is where I’m going to lose a lot of you, but I’m asking you to assume some level of responsibility for the racist society that you live in.  Racism in America is a problem white people created hundreds of years ago when we decided it was ok to steal Africans  from their homes and force them to work for us for free in the “New World”.  Do you find yourself saying “But why should I be held accountable for my ancestors awful decisions? Or “but slavery has been abolished and they have equal rights now!”.  My response is this, a large portion of Americans are still not being treated as equals based on the color of their skin and this is mostly being perpetuated by white people so this is our problem to address.  If you think this is a black problem, and that they are somehow responsible for fixing this, then in my opinion you are victim blaming and somehow think they deserve this.  I find it similar to all of those ‘helpful talks’ that instruct women how not to get raped when we should be targeting the rapists and the rape culture that allows them to get away with it so frequently.   Now if you’ve already taken the first two steps, I have one last very small request.
  1. DO NOT REMAIN SILENT. Use your social media outlets to let people know just how outraged, how heartbroken, how ashamed you are that these things kinds of things are still happening in our “civilized” America.  Have real discussions about it with your friends on and offline.  It was part of the dinner discussion at the Thanksgiving dinner I was welcomed at.

Chris Rock recently had a great tweet. “Just found a new app that tells you which one of your friends are racist.  It’s called Facebook.  #FergusonDecision”.  I have found this to be true even on my on Facebook page.  I’ve been tempted to unfriend people for some of the crap I’ve seen them post in regards to this issue but then I decided I had a moral obligation not to. Instead I’ve chosen to respond to them, and publicly shame them when I felt it appropriate and I will continue to do so.

America needs an attitude adjustment and it starts in our homes.  Peoples ideas don’t change if they’re never challenged.   We already have laws and documents proclaiming all American’s are equal in the eyes of the law, but until we actually start treating each others as equals these laws can never be honestly upheld.

In my opinion those three things are the very bare minimum of what you could and should be doing in response to this.  I have lots of limitations because of my health but if I can do these three things I think most of you can as well.  If you can do more, please do!  This of course won’t change things overnight.  It’s taken 4 centuries to get us to this pathetic ‘progressive’ place we’re at now.  If you have other ideas of easy things that I and others can do, then please share them.




A Love Letter For My Friend Fran


The government has finally granted that I’m disabled by chronic illnesses such as POTS and CFS.  I frequently spend days in bed because I can hardly move, and  I break down in tears usually once a day or more mourning the loss of my health. My permanent address is a P.O. Box, but I’m still incredibly lucky because I also have a Fran. Everyone would be better off for having a Fran of their own but not everyone is as fortunate.

Our friendship really started off how any good relationship should with me giving her money to spend time with me.  Best investment I’ve ever made.  Because of her incredible cheerleading and maths skills, she was somehow able help me survive maths so I could graduate Santa Rosa Junior College.  Then we continued our education together briefly at the University in Davis.  I conned her into helping me take over the Agnostic and Atheist Student Association when it was almost completely dead.  We were 2 of 3 members still showing up when we took over.  I always had grandiose ideas, but she somehow always made them realities.

I asked for her assistance at Freethought Day in Sacramento.  She said she would help a little, but of course she ended up doing most of the work, and let me network and get books to auction off for the Light the Night Fundraiser for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. A charity I support through the Foundation Beyond Belief that is very dear to me.  Eventually I was overwhelmed by the heat and exhausted from the days activities and laid in the shaded grass, but then remembered I wanted to say goodbye to one last person since I realized I probably wouldn’t get to see them again, so she helped as I struggled to get back up and offered to walk me over for support but I refused.  I was foolishly trying my best not to show weakness when I walked away because I didn’t want my friends last memory of me to be of how broken I was, but when I made it to him I was delirious and could barely stand.  He immediately recognized I was crashing fast and offered his arm to me one last time and walked me back to the safety of Fran.  I curled up in a ball and cried but knew I would be ok because she was there.  She went and got her car and pulled up as close as she could knowing I should walk as little as possible.  She drove me home, walked me to bed where I collapsed, but not before I was able to ask for food for the next day.  I knew there wasn’t much food where I was staying, and that I was only going to be able to leave the bed to go to the bathroom. Yes, there are actually days that I’m so bad off that I can’t even make ramen for myself.  She dropped off the other three people that were with us, and then went and got me food and brought it back.  She didn’t ask me what I wanted her to get, because she knows if I’m asking her for food that I’m desperate, can barely talk, and making decisions makes me more stressed out. This is only one of many times I’ve asked her for an emergency food run.  I never have to tell her what, she just always comes back with delicious food.

This week she set the bar even higher on just how awesome you have to be to reach her level.  She agreed to take me grocery shopping.  This is such a mundane task too most people that they can’t grasp how difficult it is for me to spend more than ten minutes in a store.  I usually end up leaving with food for a meal instead of the week because I’m too overwhelmed and exhausted and want to get out as soon as possible.  She asked me basic questions about what I wanted but would make the decisions whenever she could tell I was getting overwhelmed.  She’s kind and generous, but knows how to take charge so that the end goal is achieved.  She’s so generous in fact that she wouldn’t let me pay her for the groceries because she knows I’ve been hard up as I’ve been waiting for my first disability payment to come through.  She drove me home and helped put things away and then left me to rest.  I can’t even describe how amazing it was to wake up the next day and know there was real food in my house to eat because of her.  I didn’t have to eat ramen another day, and it was a good thing too, because I only had one package left.  I was really excited to get to eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich again!

I could write many pages about the many amazing things about Fran.  She’s incredibly smart, sassy, puts up with my bullshit, lots of fun to laugh with, an amazing cook and baker, but for me nothing matches her incredible friendship.  She does all of these amazing things for me, knowing I am not able to give much in return.  Everyone could improve the quality of their life, with a Fran in their life, but find one of your own! I’ll fight you to the death for this one!

Depression Is A Dirty Word

I suffer from depression, something I could and should be getting treatment for, but I have been afraid to seek treatment because doing so could be used as ammunition to invalidate my other very real but invisible ongoing health issues POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome.)  I have already had 3 out of about a dozen doctors tell me my illness was all in my head.  That’s a quarter of them that wanted to just give me antidepressants and ignore all of my other symptoms.  

I even went to see a psychiatrist to prove I wasn’t depressed so they couldn’t just write off my physical condition anymore.  They psychiatrist even said I was the opposite of depressed.  I had the will, and motivation to get things done, but lacked the energy to make it happen.  He was both right and wrong.  Not everyone that is depressed mopes around and can’t get out of bed.  Like most things, it has a variety of ways of presenting itself.  I kept my depression at bay by making sure I never had a moment alone with my thoughts.  I worked full time, went to school full time, and still made sure I had a social and family life.  Don’t ask me when I found time to sleep.  Some of the most ambitious people are the unhappiest people you will ever meet, and you may never even realize it, because we’re hiding behind our ambition.  I fear that Robin Williams was one of these types of people but I could be wrong because I didn’t know him personally.

The other thing I did that was immensely helpful for depression was running.  This helped for two reasons, the usual runners high you get from the quick endorphin rush, but there are plenty of forms of exercises that help release endorphins.  I was running because it was an instant fix.  It was instant pain delivered to my body that I had control over.  I was basically replacing cutting with running.  Once I developed POTS I was no longer able to do this.  At least not until I quit everything else and made exercising my priority.  Then I sprained my ankle a few months ago and that was taken that away from me again.   

Coincidentally the day Robin Williams took his life, I was barely holding on by a thread.  I don’t remember what triggered it, it doesn’t matter because there will always be triggers.  Learning how to deal with them is what’s important.  It was about 1pm in the afternoon and I started drinking, something that I’m admittedly not suppose to do because of my dysautonomia.  I’m now a lightweight and I knew one beer in, that it wasn’t going to help, so I picked up my cigarettes. I was slowly escalating my coping mechanisms.  I know smoking is poisonous and extremely bad for me especially considering my condition, but is more socially acceptable than cutting so I always try that first to get some satisfaction.  The cigarettes did nothing for me, so then I got out my box knife.  I never cut deep, that’s not the point.  It’s about converting the pain I feel inside to something I can control on the outside of my body.  I’m always careful about where I cut, so that it’s not visible to most people.  I kept slashing at both of my legs, and there was more and more blood and yet nothing.  Where was my fucking high?  I’ve never had cutting being completely non effective.  I realized if I was left to my own devices I would just continue making cuts all over my body.  I then asked my friend to do something I’ve never had to do before.  I asked him to take the blade away from me before there were marks all over my body, or worse yet before I accidentally did something that would have caused more permanent damage.  It’s been a very long time since I cared so little about me or anything else.  

It’s been 15 years since I’ve gotten that low.   I know it’s been 15 years because yesterday was my oldest nieces 15th birthday, and things changed once someone put her into my arms.  I called her my Sunshine because she offered me great joy in my darkest of moments and I promised I would never do anything to intentionally cause harm to this beautiful creature. I now have 4 nieces and a nephew that have added to that joy.  They are what keep me here.  Anytime I want to selfishly remove myself from this planet to end my pain I just think of them.  I lost my grandmother when I was 10 and I’ve never recovered from it, and she didn’t leave me intentionally, so how could I inflict that much pain on to any of them intentionally? I will not do that to them no matter of how often I think about doing it.  They are no longer enough though.  I need to find my own happiness, and because of my health I can no longer hide behind my ambitions.

Depression is a dirty word that I never wanted attached to me permanently because our society tells you this makes you weak.  It’s time that people like myself speak up about it and aren’t afraid to talk about it.  I’m working on that list bit.  We must get rid of the stigma tied to this diagnosis so that more people will seek help.  For anyone worried about this post, I have contacted a counselor and I am actively seeking help.  If you relate to this, I hope you will do the same.  

I recently realized that I have set myself up to be alone because I saw love as a liability not an asset.  I wasn’t going to let anything or anyone get in the way of my ambitions.  I pushed away every person that tried to be good to me because I didn’t want to be tied down.   Now that I’ve been stripped of all my academic ambitions, I realize what I fool I’ve been.  We are social creatures by nature, and I’m slowly and painfully learning that being independent doesn’t mean having to go it alone.   

No Tresspassing! My Body is My Property

This is a long delayed follow up commentary about my last post The Devil Is In The Details here  If you haven’t read it, it might be helpful to read it first but it is explicit in nature and does describe a sexual assault in graphic detail so trigger warning.  I would like to think there is still some useful information regardless of whether you read the other piece.  


Why do we as a society think it’s impolite to go into someone’s fridge without asking, and yet often presume consent access to other people’s bodies?  The absence of a “no” does not mean yes.  

I know some people are stringent on getting verbal consent, but I don’t think it’s always necessary.  I do however expect that if it’s non verbal, that it be enthusiastic consent.  If you’re not sure, then you should probably stick to the verbal.  Even then, verbal consent isn’t always reliable.  A good rule I once heard was from Greta Christina: “Saying yes when you have the power to say no.”  It is unreasonable to think you can get an honest yes if someone is under duress, such as if someone has a knife to your throat while asking.  More common scenarios are when someone can feel pressured by someone who has some kind of power over them such as a boss, professor, counselor or a medical care provider.  This isn’t to say that I think there have never been consensual relations in these scenarios, but it makes it more complex.  That being said, if I could only give consent to those that don’t have any power over me, my list of possible sexual partners would be extremely limited, due to my compromised health.

In my last post I gave two scenarios that seem similar on the surface until you read the details.  One of these women was sexually assaulted, and one of these scenarios was completely consensual.  Did you even notice that when I was talking about the sexual contact in these stories that it was largely what HE was doing to her?  There seems to be this pervasive assumption in our culture that women are suppose to be passive in and out of the bedroom. In my experience it’s a lot more fun if everyone is actively participating.  

If you couldn’t tell which woman was sexually assaulted without the details did you still find yourself thinking they both put themselves in sketchy situations, and they were probably both just sluts anyways and they deserved it?  If you do, you are part of the problem.  Everyone has the right to seek and fulfill their pleasures as long as it’s consensual and legal.  As a woman who has been an openly polyamorous woman, I have been constantly subject to slut shaming, or people just having this weird curiosity about me,  even within my own atheist community.   I’m somehow strange because *gasp* I’m a woman who admits that I enjoy having sex because it feels good, and I actively seek it out, and not because I’m searching for my one true love to come along.  

My friend recounted that she had been trying to rationalize the situation the entire time it was happening.  Maybe he didn’t understand her? Maybe he couldn’t tell how freaked out she was ?  Many people ask why victims don’t fight back, but part of why they are victims is because they they feel that their power has been taken from them.  They will often do whatever they can to survive what’s happening, and make it end as quickly as possible with as little harm to themselves as possible.  This too frequently means them going along with something they don’t want to because they are afraid of the harm that might come to them if they say no, which means they are incapable of actually giving consent.   

The guy knew he couldn’t presume he had a ride home from her, why would he presume he had access to her body? You should assume NO, not yes when it comes to access to someone elses body.  Non verbal consent can work when given enthusiastically which I tried to demonstrate in scenario A.  Unless agreed upon in advance, all those taking part in the sexual encounter should be actively participating!  My partner commented on the fact that he liked how responsive I was.  I assume this is because he could tell I was enjoying myself.  In most of my experiences, people do actually like knowing that they are actually making the other person feel good.  Let them know what you do, and don’t like verbally, or non verbally.  If at any point you aren’t sure they are enjoying themselves, just ASK!

I don’t subscribe to alcohol automatically negating your ability to give consent depending on the situation, but that might just be because I only allow myself to get inebriated with people I trust and feel safe with in the first place.  I also don’t usually allow myself to drink enough where I’m incapable of making coherent decisions.

The kink community is a definite exception to non-verbal consent.  If you’re entering a world where power is being given over and taken willingly, then you better know exactly what power you do and don’t have, and even after they’ve given you that power, they STILL have the right to take it back and say no at any time.

It’s also important to remember that  just because you’re in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean you have an all-access pass anytime you want.  Also getting into bed with someone doesn’t automatically give you consent.  Your body is your property, and my body is my property, and without my consent you are TRESPASSING!

The Devil Is In The Details

Trigger Warning.  This post involves sexual assualt, and explicit sexual descriptions.

I’m going to share with you two very different stories.   On the surface they will appear very similar, but the devil is in the details.  The devil in this case being sexual assault, but unlike the devil, these are both true stories.

Scenario A: It’s Tuesday night.  They’re at a local bar where they’ve both been drinking with some friends. They spend several hours together, before they walk back to his place.  She invites herself in, and he suggests she sit down for a few minutes before walking home.  He then offers to let her crash at his place for the night.  She knows he has other commitments, and that she may never see him again.  She crawls into his bed.  He turns off the lights and then he begins to kiss her lips, then moves down to her neck, and then starts using his teeth, leaving marks on her delicate skin.  Shortly after, his mouth finds its way down to her nipples, and then he’s putting his fingers on her clit and then up into her pussy.  He continues fucking her, and he has her change positions.  Afterwards he drives her home. He hugs her and gives her a kiss on the cheek before he leaves.

Scenario B: It’s Tuesday night.  They meet at a kink party, where they’ve both been drinking.  They’ve spent several hours together. Their erotic likes and dislikes have come up through discussion within the group.  She notices that he has taken a particular interest in listening to hers.  She has been eagerly making friends with a group she feels at home with.  They go to the after party together.  He asks her if she will give him a ride home at the end of the evening, and she says yes.  They are likely to see more of each other at future events.  They are relaxing on the couch together.  He begins to kiss her lips, then he moves down to her neck and starts using his teeth, leaving marks on her delicate skin.  Shortly after, his mouth finds its way down to her nipples, he’s putting his fingers on her clit, and then up and into her pussy.  She drives him home, and kisses him before he gets out of her car.

Now lets fill in the gaps with those pesky little details.  

Scenario A: It’s Tuesday night.  They’re at a local bar where they’ve both been drinking with some friends.  They spend several hours together exchanging ideas, laughing about the same British comedies, and the terrible choice of 90’s music that’s been playing in the background.  They are sitting across from one another, but he eventually stands up to move closer to her.   They continue to find excuses to put their hands on each other.  She can’t stop thinking about running her hands through his hair and wanting his hands all over her.  His eyes suggest he’d like to get her out of that dress.  He puts his arm around her as they walk back to his place. She invites herself in, and he suggests she sit down for a few minutes before she walks home. Once seated, he slowly begins rubbing his toes against her feet.  She rubs his feet with her toes, that are covered by sparkly black tights that cling to her skin.    Each gesture he’s made has been a careful escalation testing her boundaries, and each time she has has responded enthusiastically to his advances.  He then offers to let her crash at his place for the night.  She knows he has other commitments and that she may never see him again.  She wants to stay with him, so she crawls into his bed with him fully clothed, knowing he would be ok if she just wanted to sleep.  They’re friends, and she feels safe enough to say no to him at anytime.  They share a look of anticipation, but not of expectation. He puts his arm around her and she burrows next to him. He turns off the lights, and then he begins to kiss her lips softly, she returns his kisses eagerly. He moves down to kiss her neck and then starts using his teeth,  leaving marks on her delicate skin.  She brings him in closer and begins exploring his body.  Shortly after, his mouth finds its way down to her nipples, he kisses, sucks, and bites them. The room is dark but she can feel her body flush all over.  Then he’s putting his fingers on her clit, and then up into her pussy.  Her whole body shivers from the motion of his fingers inside her.  She is caressing his cock, trying to hold on as she is continually incapacitated by pleasure.  He is very generous, and seems content to just continually satisfy her, but she eventually stops him, takes a breath, and then puts his cock into her mouth.  She continues to suck, but he stops her before he cums.  She asks him if he wants a condom.  While she has learned not to depend on the other person for safety, this is also her way of asking him to penetrate her.  He says he has his own and leaves the bed for a moment to retrieve it.  He returns and enters her and continues fucking her. She feels good, and she feels safe.  He gently moves her hips, guiding her with his hands to change positions.  She’s on top of him now, and finally his head and hips quiver.  She locks eyes with him and they smile.  They have both been gratified, and then they nestle together and fall asleep with some gentle caresses throughout the night.  The morning afterwards he drives her home.  He gets out of the car and they embrace and kiss each other on the cheek.

Scenario B: It’s Tuesday night.  They meet at a kink munch party; a potluck where people within the community can get to know each other through conversation.   They’ve both been drinking.  She has had two glasses of wine over a five hour period. They’ve spent several hours together in the company of others.  Their erotic likes and dislikes have come up through discussion within the group. She notices that he has taken a particular interest in listening to hers.  She has spoken of her health issues, and how she always negotiates before playing.  She has explicitly mentioned how she has nerve damage and doesn’t like anyone touching her clit or nipples because of how much it hurts.  She has been eagerly making friends within a group she feels at home with.  They go to the after party together, because he has no car.  He asks if she will give him a ride home at the end of the evening and she says yes. They are likely to see more of each other at future events.  They are relaxing on the couch together, watching YouTube videos he insisted upon.  The host says he’s ready to go to sleep and people begin to leave.  She goes to the bathroom expecting to leave when she’s done, but he is making other plans for them.  He asks the host if the two of them can stick around after he goes to bed and the host consents.  He tells her he wants to stay longer so she sits back down thinking he wants to continue their conversation, but instead he begins to kiss her lips. She goes along with it, unenthusiastically.   Then he moves down to her neck and starts using his teeth, tearing at, and leaving marks she doesn’t want on her delicate skin.  She tells him she doesn’t do this without pre negotiation. Shortly after, his mouth finds its way to her off limit nipples. She tells him she doesn’t go this fast, and that she needs to take things slower. Then he’s putting his fingers on her clit and then shoving them up and into her pussy.  She tells him, no, not that. She grabs his face and tells him to stop.  Now he’s slamming her down and dislocating one of her hips trying to shove his mouth into her pussy.  She tells him no, not that either.  He asks to see her ass.  She agrees to this because this will mean he has to get off of her, to let her stand up.  She tells him he can look, but not touch.  He still can’t keep his hands to himself even after she has repeatedly said no.  Finally standing, she starts gathering her bags, saying she needs to go home. Because she is afraid to be “rude,” she still drives him home. He says he wants to do this again. She says she doesn’t know. He won’t get out of the car before she agrees to see him again, and so she kisses him instead, pressing her weight against him to get him out of her car.

Both women had similar things happen to them, but only one of them walked away feeling blissful.  The other was left traumatized. Much of the sexual contact in these scenarios is the same.  What makes them so drastically different is consent.  In Scenario A, the woman was an active participant.  She gave enthusiastic, non-verbal consent.  In Scenario B, he was all over her and never asked if she wanted him there.  He knew to ask for a ride home, yet he didn’t feel the need to ask before accessing her body.  While it’s clear that had she been asked, she would not have given her consent, that’s not the point.  The point is that he never asked.  That is the missing detail.

Frequently details are left out, and that somehow translates into making it easier to blame the victim.  People hear they were friendly with each other.  They hear alcohol was involved.  They ask what she was wearing.  They hear that she didn’t knee him in the groin and run.  They hear she didn’t report it to the police.  What they don’t hear is that he never asked for her consent.

Next time you’re feeling judgemental, remember the devil is in the details.

If you have somehow managed to get to the end of this post and think the woman in Scenario B wasn’t sexually assaulted, then please do me a favor and remove yourself from my life.



“Everybody Lies.”


It’s Memorial Day weekend again, and once again I am overcome by grief and guilt over my friend Matt who died in Iraq, but this year I’m asking myself different questions.  I’ve been watching the television show House M.D and a recurring line from the character Dr House is that  “Everybody lies”.  A cynical outlook perhaps but I think it’s worth exploring.

I can’t stop thinking about this line because when I read the obituaries for Matt that say he always wanted to be a soldier, and that he was doing it to protect his little sister, but he never expressed these things with me.  I wasn’t happy when he signed up, and he never tried to give me an honorable reason for doing so.  He had a fuck it all attitude when he spoke to me, and spoke as if this was his way of forfeiting his life without doing it himself.  I would never accuse this beautiful young man of being a coward for doing so.  It was more like he knew people would have to die for this cause, and fuck it, it might as well be him, and not some poor other John Doe who wasn’t in so much pain.  This gives me pause.   Does what he expressed to me necessarily invalidate what he might have told his other family and friends?

Perhaps Matt  was telling me what he thought I wanted to hear.  Maybe he didn’t think I would believe the other reasons because when I met Matt we were both drowning in our own wells of pain, which is why we connected so quickly I think, but I would be a fool to think that he didn’t have other aspects of his complicated life.  He shared his pain with me because it’s what we had in common.  I do think people have a tendency to not be completely honest with each other.  We tell each other what we think the other person wants to hear, but how often do we also just hear or see what we want of others?  It’s in our nature to try to connect with others, so we will identify what we can in others that remind us of ourselves.   An example of this is how people act differently around different people. My personality might change depending on whether I’m hanging with fellow writers, or whether I’m hanging out with my atheist friends. As a general rule I try to not give a false representation of myself, but I can be represented in so many different ways, all different, but all true.  I am an atheist, a writer, an aunt, and so much more, and my behavior and actions do change as appropriate.

I miss Matt every day.  I am grateful that he was one of the few people that could understand the pain I was in.  Very few people have the courage to share how much pain they are actually in, like he did with me.  Cheers to my friend Corporal Matthew P Wallace, you will not be forgotten while I remain coherent and still have breath.



A Band-Aids Companion

It began with a safety pin

-an unnatural curiosity-

blended with boredom.  It brought her a simple satisfaction;

she was comfortable feeling pain, only natural that she

would begin to find pleasure in it.


Quickly she became bored -of pricked fingertips-

she soon craved more of an edge; something that would allow

the wounds to linger, enabling her

-to feel-


Foolish friends- with their inhaled sharpies,

rancid grape juice, stolen yeast,

and the bottles of NyQuil they used to numb their pain.

They knew she wanted to die,

but didn’t realize she cut open her skin

because the spilled blood made her feel more alive.


She squeezed Neosporin onto her wounds, encountering

a different kind of satisfaction, as she watched them heal.

Long sleeves adhered to her skin as makeshift bandages

that she only peeled off when alone, revealing scabs on scars.


At seventeen she succumbed to her vanity

and wore a short, stretchy skirt, abandoning the long sleeves

for two small strings, to stir the desires of an older man.

For once someone saw her wearing her scars,

and caressed them and said she was too beautiful


for such things. She believed him because of the way he kissed,

and even though his affection would fade faster than her scars,

he left her with a foreign feeling of beauty, that let her

reconsider the skin that she had forced so many scars upon.


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